Don’t fall into the low productivity whirlpool:
Im sure you had those evenings where you had the nagging feeling that you have not achieved nothing during the day. You started with a perfect routine with all the tasks lined up but somewhere you got side tacked and it all went downhill from there. So you decide to make an effort during the evening to catch up but whatever you do, your mind cannot just concentrate because of your guilt and its soon 1 am and you have done nothing. This goes on to 2am or sometimes 3am and next day you wake up feeling like crap and not get anything done again.
To get rid of this problem,start early and get a big chunk of the work done so that you can spend the rest of the day beaming about it and feeling proud of it. Achieve something everyday at least.
Plan how you meet people:
Always keep something to look forward to. When you are meeting friends throughout the week dont keep them all on the weekends when you sometimes get all the work done. Distribute them like put one on tuesday to deal with the early week blues, one on thursday to deal with the “man wat a week” blues and on Saturday to deal with “You wont believe wat happened this week” conversations. As you keep these well distributed there is hardly any chance of you feeling lonely.
Get some exercise:
This is the best way of being happy. Experience the “runner’s high” this is when you are almost crossing 2.5 km. Come early from work twice a week and just go running. Half an hour later when ur drenched in sweat and panting your mind will be clearer and way more relaxed than ever. Running guarantees a good night sleep, a flat stomach, clear mind and a “can do” attitude. It is also a completely inexpensive way of being fit and happy at the same time. If you have more time and you want to look good, hit the gym. You ll be fit,happy, clear, energetic and cheerful all the time.
Always have something to look forward to:
This is what drives me. I always have something to look forward to. Be it a new tuition center I am trying to set up, be it a new girl I am seeing, be it the new french class I m going to or looking forward to join Muay thai, I am excited to get up everyday and enjoy life. As a result, I have learnt a bit of french, learnt salsa and learnt photography. Only way of getting out of the monotonous life is to have new things to look forward to. If they dont come naturally(because they never do), you have to force it. You have nothing to do on a saturday, go and teach a class of under privileged children.
Do not commit to a relationship unless your sure of her/him:
Most of the woes and most of the visit to shrinks take place because of relationships gone bad and people trying to mend a broken heart. I have been through that myself and it takes quite a while to recover from it. But I think people should go through that atleast once as it is a part of growing up. Going through it is an invaluable experience.
When your not sure of the girl/boy ur dating dont commit. 99% chance it wont work out. You have to have a gut feeling that it should work not think like “ok maybe i can change her” cos that never works. Till then fill up your time fleeting from one casual date to another. Its perfectly fine morally if u date several women casually and break no one’s heart. So just dont get into relationship because your lonely and she is pretty.
Enjoy your everyday activities:
Enjoy getting up, enjoy the taste of the coffee in the morning(thats why dont drink black), enjoy the cold water against ur skin when you take ur shower. Enjoy the bright day when you walk to the bus stop. Enjoy the reading material (for me usually the newspaper and the occasional economist) on the bus, enjoy staring at the pretty ladies on the bus.
Enjoy your lunch,enjoy the delicious spicy tangy food your eating, enjoy drowning the sharp bite of the chilli with a sip of fizzy coke. Enjoy an afternoon coffee after that. Enjoy goin back home in time and finishing ur work and sticking to a routine. Enjoy falling asleep reading a book or watching a sitcom.
Enjoy a cold fizzy tasty double hop beer twice a week, enjoy a delicious fatty lamb chop or delicious kebabs in a buffet. Enjoy sitting in a huge movie theater with a popcorn and diet coke and enjoying the fizz of the coke after a mouthful of popcorn. Enjoy the thrill waiting for the movie to start, when you have been waiting for it almost a year.
Be online as minimum as possible:
The internet is the cause of majority of our depression. Its the constant emails which keep on coming and facebook which depresses the hell out of most. Go out take a walk, watch tv. People have forgotten the beauty of changing channels. I know u can download everything but the concept of changing channels is so uplifting, its like walking from one lively jovial room to another(except cnn and bbc which depress the hell out of anyone). Live like the 70s, dont stay online much, read a lot, meet people, go out to eat and watch tv.
